Navigating the endless sex toy options can be so difficult, ESPECIALLY when looking for the best lesbian sex toys. Because let's face it, most of the "lesbian sex toy" designs out there are a cash grab by massive sex toy companies that want to get some extra business but don't feel the need to actually incorporate sapphic people in the design process.
That's why a guide to the best lesbian sex toys can be so helpful. People have done the work for you! You don't have to guess, you can trust the guide.
But here's the catch: a lot of these articles are sponsored, and who has the money for those big press mention sponsorships? I'll give you a hint, it's NOT the lesbian small businesses. We have to rely on organic press, which is so much harder to come by, and hope that someone has our best interests at heart.
So why should you trust OUR review? I guess we can't prove beyond a doubt that we are sapphics with your best interests at heart. But we hope you'll give us the benefit of the doubt, because we truly are part of this community, we care about you and your sex life, and this is a 100% honest and unsponsored guide based on our firsthand experience.
While not all these toys are made specifically for lesbians, we included them on our list of Best Lesbian Sex Toys because they genuinely contribute something to our experience, and we think they serve a specific purpose for the lesbian and sapphic community.
So, whether you’re looking for lesbian sex toys for the first time or just wanting to expand your collection, here's our list of the best lesbian sex toys and why we love them!
The Best Lesbian Sex Toys for Beginner Strap-on Sex
Our Pick: Avant Pride P3 By Blush
The Avant Pride P3 by Blush is definitely one of the best lesbian sex toys for those who are newer to strap-on sex, have lower penetration tolerance, or internal sensativity. It's nothing fancy or novel, per se, but we love her. Let's talk about why.
We love that this dildo is on the slimmer side, and only 5 inches long. It feels unintimidating and approachable even for beginners, whether that size is your limit or you just want to start small and build up to a larger size. As someone who struggled with vaginismus for a long time, this was my favorite dildo and the only one I could comfortably use for strap-on sex for a long time.
Let's talk abotu texture: this is one of the softest, squishiest toys out there. For people with internal sensitivity or the tendency to clench, this toy is incredibly forgiving. It doesn't feel the least bit rigid or intrusive. And the silicone itself is extremely soft to the touch. The fact that it doesn't vibrate might feel like a con, but the fact is that internal motors tend to make a toy firmer due to the components. So if you're looking for something truly beginner-friendly and prioritizing a gentle, forgiving, internal feel, give this one a shot first.
Another reason we picked this toy for our list of the best lesbian sex toys is, surprisingly, the color palette. We love that the colors pay homage to the lesbian lesbian pride flag! Though it may feel like color doesn't really matter, you may be surprised at how validating it feels. In a lot of instances, lesbians and sapphics have had some difficult experiences with penetration early on, given societal pressure that makes so many of us feel like sex with men is the only option. So, trying out penetrative strap-on sex for the first time can feel a little disconcerting at first, even though it's presumably with another sapphic. And it's surprisingly validating to have the dildo (whether you're the wearer or the receiver) feel distinct from what you've experienced in the past and directly affirming of your sexuality.
Overall, this dildo made our list of best lesbian sex toys because it feels intentionally welcoming in a category that can often feel intimidating, overly anatomical, or overly firm. It’s soft, cute, queer, beginner-friendly, and genuinely approachable.
The Best Lesbian Sex Toys for Trans and Nonbinary Lesbians
Our Pick: Starsi by Cute Little Fuckers
The Starsi by Cute Little Fuckers is genuinely one of the most thoughtful and trans-affirming sex toys out there.
What immediately stands out about Starsi is that it completely rejects the idea that a sex toy has to look phallic, hyper-anatomical, or aggressively gendered in order to feel sexy or pleasurable. Instead, it uses this adorable starfish-inspired shape that feels playful, soft, and approachable. The design feels intentionally detached from traditional heterosexual sex toy aesthetics, which can make it especially comforting for trans and nonbinary users who feel alienated by more conventional toy designs.
The curved shape and broad surface area of Starsi can provide stimulation while also covering the genital region in a way many users describe as euphoric and dysphoria-reducing.
Another thing we love is how versatile it is. The toy can be used externally across a huge range of body parts and anatomy configurations, making it feel much more adaptable than many traditional sex toys that assume one specific kind of body or stimulation style. The tentacle tips provide more pinpoint stimulation while the curved back offers broader pressure and grinding sensations, which makes it really customizable depending on what kind of sensation you like.
While this toy is not by any means designed only for lesbians, it is certainly beloved by our community and warrants a shout-out on our best lesbian sex toys list!
The Best Lesbian Sex Toys for Couples
Our Pick: The Split by Banana Split
Ok, yes, this one is ours, and we may be a tad bit biased...but you can rest assured that we have the 5-star reviews, press mentions, and awards to back it up! So why does our toy deserve a spot on the best lesbian sex toys list? Let's talk about it!
The first of it's kind: the Split is a one-of-a-kind innovation that's been lacking from the partner toy industry for so long. For the first time, a mix-and-match design lets you create the perfect toy for you and your partner. According to our market research, the vast majority of sapphic couples couldn't even use double-ended dildos due to sizing issues. And when you think about it, it's silly that a toy designed for TWO people should be one-size-fits-all. That kind of design simply doesn't acknowledge the diversity of the lesbian and sapphic community. A mix-and-match toy just makes sense!
What makes The Split one of the best lesbian sex toys is how it makes simultaneous pleasure so much more accessible to all kinds of couples and bodies. Simultaneously, physical pleasure can be so hard to achieve for sapphics, and we deserve more toys that facilitate it!
The Best Lesbian and Sapphic-Friendly Sex Game
Our Pick: Sweatgasm a queer truth or dare game
You may be wondering how a card game fits into our list of best lesbian sex toys, but we had to feature Sweatgasm by Archie Bongiovanni! There are so few sexy card games that are actually made for queer people. We're obsessed with the illustrations, spicy dares, and consent cards that let a player opt in or out easily from any card they receive.
While these dares are certainly not for the faint of heart (pee on a friend, lick a butthole, etc), the truths are A LOT more approachable and add some spicy vibes to even the most vanilla of friend groups without making anyone too uncomfortable or scandalized.
If you're looking for a truly versatile spicy game that works for sexy time with partners as well as big group hangs, definitely give Sweatgasm a try.
The Best Lesbian Sex Accessory
Our Pick: Splash Blanket: The OG in Cupcake
Let’s face it: lesbian and sapphic sex can get MESSY. And we love it!!
Whether it's lube, squirting, period blood, things are sure to get a little ~wet~ which is great! But there’s nothing worse than getting pulled out of the moment because you’re worried about your sheets, couch cushions, rug, etc. That’s why one of our favorite non-toy additions to any sapphic sex setup is the Splash Blanket.
Their blankets are waterproof, soft, and cute enough to leave on your bed. We especially love The OG in Cupcake simply because, tbh, we are too femme to function and lovvvve pink.
We hope this helped :)
Everything we write, design, test, or recommend at Banana Split is unsponsored and comes directly from our team of sapphics, our community, and the real feedback we’ve collected from queer people actually using these products in real life.
While we are a business and we do think our toys are genuinely fucking awesome, we won't hesitate to recommend other products and stores that we support. Our goal is never to gatekeep all the incredible products out there that we believe can help so many sapphics have their specific needs met
There are endless options out there for sex toys and accessories to sift through, and we hope this guide helped make the process feel less overwhelming💖